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It's one of the most well-documented stories in pop culture history that Yara Shahidi is a queen. Zero people should be shocked to learn that the Black-ish actress is elegant, stylish, smart, talented, funny, beautiful, wise, and so on into infinity. There is no way we will ever question any of those statements.
He shared their cute backstage pic and captioned it, "The graceful, classy, beautiful @yarashahidi, everyone. Ladies take note."
While there's nothing at all wrong with Ross calling Yara "graceful, classy, [and] beautiful," – she is, in fact, all three – many fans did a double-take at the follow-up sentence, "Ladies take note." It's very clear that Ross didn't intend to offend anyone with his compliment, (Yara herself even commented back using three smiley face emoji), many fans voiced their thoughts on why making general statements like this can be problematic.
"Don't say 'ladies take note' it implies the rest of us strong women can't be as awesome as her," one commenter wrote on the photo.
"I mean, you could really apologize for that last sentence. I'm not like her so what ? Does it makes me less important ? Really man, delete it and apologize. 'ladies take notes'... What a pity for a man to think he can tell women how to be," another user added. "don't do this to me, ross. ladies do not have to be graceful or classy and you know it," someone else contributed.
"Y'all look gorgeous, but the comment was unnecessary and threw me off. I'm sorry but I am who I am. And I won't let people tell me who I should be. @rossbutler," another poster commented.
One Instagram user even wrote, "yikes! still didnt change that cap?" after noticing more negative reactions.
The thing is, a lot of us look up to Yara as an incredible role model, because there are so many things about her that are inspirational and worth celebrating. But it feels more than a little strange when a guy we respect says we're supposed to seek a certain set of qualities from a role model.
Of course, not everyone thought Ross' caption was a big deal. One user shared their thoughts, saying: "People are so sensitive these day. Seriously people there worse things than ladies take notes and more important things to invest your time in, especially since ladies say men take notes all the damn time."
What do YOU think of Ross' caption? Do you think it's concerning, or totally fine? Feel free to tweet us your reactions on Twitter @twistmag.