I'm really nervous because I'm going to be starting high school next month. Not only is it stressful because it's a new place and all, but I'm going to the school my older sister went to, and she just graduated last year. All of the teachers love her, she got the best grades, and played 2 sports. I'm not the best student, can't play any sport to save my life and I'm worried everyone will compare me to her but I can't be as good. What should I do? - Becky, 14
At first, high school might seem like a scary place coming out of middle school. There are a lot more kids, the school itself is bigger so, of course, you’re thinking it is easier to get lost and you will have all new teachers. However, don’t get caught up in all of the gossip because you will be completely fine! It is normal to be nervous for your first day but think about it, you have an older sister to talk to!
After going there for four years, your sister definitely knows her way around the school. She probably knows the quietest spot in the library or the best snack to get during lunch. Talk to her!
When it comes to being compared to your sister, just be prepared, you may get that at first. But you shouldn’t feel like you need to live up to her. You are your own person! High school is a chance to show everyone who you really are and break out of your shell a little bit. If you can’t play sports then join a club! There are plenty of clubs and organizations to get involved with in high school and it is a great way to make new friends in other grades. If you branch out and step a little bit outside your comfort zone people will stop comparing you to your sister. They will recognize you as your own person with your own set of skills and talents and your own personality. Just because she went there for the past four years doesn’t mean you will stand in her shadow!
Also, it may not be a bad thing that all of the teachers loved her because they will already have a positive mind set when they see your name pop up on their attendance sheet! They will probably also be very willing to help you out if you are struggling in class. It will show that even though all of the tests and quizzes and studying may not come as easy to you as it did your sister you are still willing to make the effort and try.
Just remember, high school is supposed to be fun! The nerves will settle and you will become your own person separate from your sister!
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